To choose happiness means to choose change.

We always say “If you don’t like _____, change it.” This goes beyond your career, living situation, groups of peers, extracurricular activities, the way you look, the way you feel- whatever it is that you don’t like. This hits the core of why you don’t believe you CAN CHANGE these things. We feel compelled to stay in shitty situations or circumstances because of how we have created it in our minds BUT once we notice that we can change what we have created- we notice we are capable of changing ANYTHING!! You don’t have to stay at your job you’re unhappy with because you believe you’re not going to find something better. You don’t have to hangout with shitty people because you believe you can’t find new friends. You don’t have to be unhappy because according to others “you’re not where you should be.” YOU DONT NEED ANY OF THAT!! We have created these thoughts and beliefs by everything and everyone around us. If you need to change something- CHANGE IT! And if you need help- ASK someone you trust to help you! Be vulnerable and humble. Happiness is a choice whether we believe it or not because we CHOOSE what we allow in our lives to make us happy and we CHOOSE what we get rid of that doesn’t make us happy. FORGET what others think or say- change things for yourself! We have the power to do so if we just allow ourselves to feel worthy of having a good life full of the things that we want. We can change EVERYTHING

Going somewhere?

Life is a highway. 

We hear it all the time. 

We follow the signs and choose what direction we are heading.  We are the only one in control of the wheel.  Others can suggest which signs to follow but we are in charge of the road we take. WE are responsible for the turns we choose and where we arrive. Because of this- we must pay attention to what is ahead and be completely aware of our surroundings. 

I use to blame others for the places I woke up in, especially after drinking benders. I would sober up and be completely lost having no idea where I was or the direction I was heading.  I would blame the passengers in my car for giving me poor directions. I would ridicule whoever placed the signs upside down, or change the street lights, or closed the cities down that “Has every opportunity that I could ever imagine!”  It was everyone’s fault that I wasn’t where I wanted to be.  Even those who were trying to point me in the right direction “Has no idea what they’re talking about.” I was conflicted and making turns leading to dead ends. 

Then I ended up at a rest stop.  Realizing I needed some redirection, I had to get my shit together. 

I filled up on some fuel. 

Grabbed the fucking road map and figured out where hell I was. 

Once I realized that this highway is mine I started following the signs I wanted to. The ones that took me where I wanted to go. The exits that lead to experiences and opportunities that were good for me. Only let passengers in that gave a damn and wanted to go where I wanted to go. Arriving right where I wanted to be. 

Life is a highway. 

There are mountains and valleys. 

Stop sings and street lights. 

Take a break when you need too.  

Make the U turn when it’s necessary.

Let down the windows to give you fresh air and remember who you are and where you want to be. 

Whether it’s the right direction or not, you’re going somewhere. 

Make this your journey.